What to do if you feel ashamed about your body. As we grow older we become more self-conscious.

January 30, 2025

Learn how to overcome body shame when you’re Over 65.

As we get older, we can become more self-conscious about our body, especially when remembering what our body used to look like.

Body shame can affect anyone, including those over 65, often for different reasons than younger people. Aging brings natural changes—wrinkles, sagging skin, weight shifts, or reduced mobility—which can challenge self-image, especially in a culture that glorifies youth. But growing older doesn’t mean losing worth, beauty, or confidence.

Why Body Shame Happens in Later Life

1. Cultural Standards – Society often values youth over aging, making older individuals feel invisible or unattractive.

2. Physical Changes – Wrinkles, weight changes, and loss of muscle tone can lead to self-consciousness.

3. Health Challenges – Illness, surgery, or reduced mobility can affect body confidence.

4. Comparison to the Past – Looking back at younger versions of yourself can create unrealistic expectations.

5. Intimacy Concerns – Changes in appearance or function might lead to anxiety in relationships.

How to Overcome Body Shame

1. Reframe Your Perspective – Your body has carried you through decades of experiences, laughter, and wisdom. Celebrate its resilience.

2. Limit Negative Media Influence – Seek out representations of older adults embracing their age confidently.

3. Practice Gratitude – Focus on what your body allows you to do rather than what has changed.

4. Dress for Confidence – Wear clothes that make you feel good, rather than focusing on what you think you “should” wear.

5. Engage in Joyful Movement – Exercise in ways that make you feel strong, whether it’s walking, yoga, or dancing.

6. Connect with Supportive People – Surround yourself with those who uplift and appreciate you for who you are.

7. Embrace Self-Care – Skincare, massage, or simply treating yourself with kindness can boost confidence.

Your body tells the story of a life well-lived. Every wrinkle, scar, and change are a testament to your experiences and strength. Aging isn’t something to be ashamed of—it’s an achievement.

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